Dear Husband, I think we’d both agree that marriage is hard. We knew that going into this thing. Or at least, we thought we knew it. The moment we got engaged, people were adamant about telling us how challenging marriage can be. But like everything else in life, it’s hard to actually ... Read More
To Dads with New Babies, When you first found out your wife was expecting, I’m sure you experienced your share of worries. Babies are weird creatures, after all, and there’s a lot to figure out – like just how much it’s going to cost you to add this new human to your family for the next ... Read More
DISCLAIMER: If you do not enjoy The Bachelor/ette TV series, if you think it's trashy, stupid, or you simply feel you are above that kind of smutt, then please, take a moment, and say your goodbyes. You will not find love here. Dear Monday, You owe The Bachelor a thank you. Before The ... Read More
We moved into our home 2 years ago, and to this day, I have never scrubbed the kitchen floor. Well, not really. Not unless you count wiping up spilled milk with your sock. I can also count on one hand the number of times the bathroom in the basement has been cleaned, and our guest bedroom ... Read More
Dear Husband, This season of life has been a challenging one. I know it shouldn’t come as a surprise, since people have always told us how hard the first few years of marriage can be. We are smack dab in the middle of those years, after all. And I know we are not the only ones feeling it. As ... Read More
(I wrote this letter to myself. Maybe you'll relate. Maybe you won't.) Your husband is not a punching bag. So stop taking all of your stress out on him. You wanted this life. You love this life. You’re just tired and worn out. But, he probably is too. He worked hard all day too. He ... Read More
![[FOREWARNING: Rant ahead!]
I've heard it a lot recently: “Start showing up for your own life.”
And you know what? I hate that line. Like, WHAT!? Was I not showing up these past 30 years already? Was my endless hard work to try and balance taking care of my family, my job, my home, and my personal life, not enough?
I need to do MORE?
Apparently so.
Hustle MORE, rest MORE, exercise MORE, sleep MORE, enjoy MORE, work MORE, be present MORE, buy MORE.
The list goes on.
“Girl, do this.”
“Girl, don’t do that.”
It’s an endless storm of mixed-messages swirling around me, telling me to just keep striving. Everyone seems to have the magical solution of how I can single-handedly attain happiness in my life, with an endless effort to BE MORE.
And you know what my response is?
“Barf.”
Cuz, guess what, friends? I'm going to say something counter-cultural:
I AM NOT ENOUGH.
Wait, what?!
Yes, that’s right. And, guess what?
YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH EITHER.
Because, did you forget? We are SINNERS. We are inadequate. We are failures. No matter how hard I try to do it all on my own, be the perfect parent, friend, wife, etc.… it’s NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN.
And the solution isn’t simply to TRY HARDER. To “show up” for my own life more, rely on myself more, hustle more, or to wash my dang face.
Instead, the solution is to come to terms with the fact that I am NOT enough, and I NEED JESUS.
The sooner we embrace that, the sooner we will find the peace, and joy, and MEANING for our lives that we’re so desperately searching for.
Like I said…
You are not enough. But JESUS IS.
His GRACE is.
His MERCY is.
And his GOODNESS is.
THAT’s what we need more of.
You can rest easy knowing that HE will mend your broken pieces, HE will pour grace over your shortcomings, HE will give your life value and worth and PURPOSE. HE will forgive you over and over again, and turn your broken life WHOLE and beautiful, and perfect in HIS name.
GIRRRL, stop taking advice from strangers on the internet telling you how to try and take the role of God in your life.👊🏼✨](http://scontent-atl3-1.cdninstagram.com/vp/ea19a5222bcf00f8017cc2d2a64d50a5/5D75D5E0/t51.2885-15/sh0.08/e35/c87.0.906.906/s640x640/56966849_648187062276984_3744583168709833482_n.jpg?_nc_ht=scontent-atl3-1.cdninstagram.com "[FOREWARNING: Rant ahead!]
I've heard it a lot recently: “Start showing up for your own life.”
And you know what? I hate that line. Like, WHAT!? Was I not showing up these past 30 years already? Was my endless hard work to try and balance taking care of my family, my job, my home, and my personal life, not enough?
I need to do MORE?
Apparently so.
Hustle MORE, rest MORE, exercise MORE, sleep MORE, enjoy MORE, work MORE, be present MORE, buy MORE.
The list goes on.
“Girl, do this.”
“Girl, don’t do that.”
It’s an endless storm of mixed-messages swirling around me, telling me to just keep striving. Everyone seems to have the magical solution of how I can single-handedly attain happiness in my life, with an endless effort to BE MORE.
And you know what my response is?
“Barf.”
Cuz, guess what, friends? I'm going to say something counter-cultural:
I AM NOT ENOUGH.
Wait, what?!
Yes, that’s right. And, guess what?
YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH EITHER.
Because, did you forget? We are SINNERS. We are inadequate. We are failures. No matter how hard I try to do it all on my own, be the perfect parent, friend, wife, etc.… it’s NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN.
And the solution isn’t simply to TRY HARDER. To “show up” for my own life more, rely on myself more, hustle more, or to wash my dang face.
Instead, the solution is to come to terms with the fact that I am NOT enough, and I NEED JESUS.
The sooner we embrace that, the sooner we will find the peace, and joy, and MEANING for our lives that we’re so desperately searching for.
Like I said…
You are not enough. But JESUS IS.
His GRACE is.
His MERCY is.
And his GOODNESS is.
THAT’s what we need more of.
You can rest easy knowing that HE will mend your broken pieces, HE will pour grace over your shortcomings, HE will give your life value and worth and PURPOSE. HE will forgive you over and over again, and turn your broken life WHOLE and beautiful, and perfect in HIS name.
GIRRRL, stop taking advice from strangers on the internet telling you how to try and take the role of God in your life.👊🏼✨")
